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no one is to be blamed for your low self-esteem

Before you start getting angry at me, please calm for a moment and let me explain my opinion:

By blaming other people, you are giving out your power, your power over yourself and over your emotions.

By blaming other people, you are losing energy.

By blaming others, you concentrate on the negative side of life, on your problems, on bad feelings. The ancient wisdom goes, "you get more of what you concentrate on".

Maybe there were some people or circumstances that caused your problems, BUT THERE IS NO ONE TO BE BLAMED. Because you will be the only one that is loosing something when resorting to blaming others.

The moment you realize that, the moment you release your anger for good, and start to concentrate on the brighter side of the life, is the FIRST STEP and perhaps most important one, on your road to more grandious life.

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no one is to be blamed for your low self-esteem

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 2006-06-21 05:38.

ok, unfortunately I disagree with this statement about nobody is to blame. Here is the deal, I have suffered from a low self estteem for a great deal of my life. Whenever I tried to do something and it didn't work out, my mom called me good for nothing. I was constanyly put down by my mom and sibs. I began to have less faith in myself...
As I got older, my older sibs , because I am the youngerest still treat me like a child.... I feel bad , as a result of their put downs and making me feel like a kid, they have causef me to have low self esteem...

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no one is to blame for your low self esteem

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 2007-06-28 08:12.

you have a programme running that you are good for nothing and this is waht you beleive so this is what you will receive back

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What you described is

Submitted by Tom on Fri, 2006-06-23 17:34.

What you described is probably the most frequent scenario of the cause of low self-esteem.I'm not saying that it was OK, nor that nobody is responsible for that, etc.My point is, that by focusing on the past, we are losing our power to change the now.Blaming others takes a lot of energy. Thinking about what others did to us in the past, makes us feel worse. The less energy we have, the worse we feel, the lower are our chances to breakthrough and change the situation, as for that, we need power and energy, good attitude, and outlook oriented towards now and future.Now....it's not easy to change that blaming and angry attitude.... it takes time, effort. But once it will be done, you will benefit immensely. I didn't believe until I tried. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Those who don't forgive, see themselves as victims. Those who forgive, are those who have the power. Btw., thanks a lot for your comment!

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